In listening to numerous comments over the past few days as the issue of gay “marriage” continue to pile up, I’ve noticed an interesting and troubling pattern, and it’s mainly in the framing of the issue.

Barbra Streisand, short on brains and long on opinion, framed the issue in a context that it’s not supposed to be framed in, as many have, and as no one should be:

The law cannot dictate matters of the heart. When two people form a deep bond, there is usually a soul connection, and the soul has no gender. Life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness are fundamental rights in this country. Happiness can be many things - a good meal, a good friend, a warm puppy, and certainly…love. How can anyone legislate who you can love? That is a human right, the right to love and be loved.

It’s all over the place, and it’s damned wrong.

The idea that people are trying to legislate who you can and cannot love is absolutely ludicrous, yet it seems to be the most repeated argument the gays on TV and the liberal supporters of them have going for them. The framing of the issue in this way turns those against it into a cold hateful lot of people legislating love.

Let me be the one to break the news to every single gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgendered, and outrightfuckingconfused human being on God’s green earth: I don’t care who you screw!

It’s almost as if there’s some sort of vanity thing going on here. The militant gays have become so damned narcissistic that they think everyone against them warping the definition of marriage and subverting the right of people to make laws that they see proper cares about who they sleep with and not what their actions mean to the rest of the country. I find it amusing that logic like that is perpetrated on the American populace in such a way as if it’s fact. Anchors repeat it. Interviewees say it.

I have never heard one single person making this idiotic claim back it up or be challenged and frankly I’m tired of it.

You know what the worst part is? People like myself are targeted as hateful because I don’t think a man should be allowed to marry a man. On the contrary, I’ve said numerous times I support civil unions, and other benefits such as the right to be a beneficiary, hospital visitation, and so on. To me, that’s common sense. However, the things I just mentioned do not require marriage by any stretch, and even though they’re worth fighting for (and I’d be one of the first on the front line fighting right along with them), I can’t bring myself to try to find common ground with people who hate me by default.

For all you pro gay marriage folks out there, it’s time to re-evaluate your position on the other side. Most of us don’t care who you sleep with, how you sleep with them, or where you sleep with them. It’s just not that damned important. It’s time to stop the smear campaign, stop spreading the untrue innuendo, and acting like the responsible adults you want to be perceived as to legitimize your unions.

Until then, this is a battle that even though I think you have some good points on, I won’t be fighting with you, and you have yourselves to thank.